Revue newsletter for Child Abuse Survivor - Issue #34
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Non-Acceptance Kills People — www.childabusesurvivor.net While the people who claim to be trying to keep kids "safe" argue about all things that are supposed to be dangerous, LGBTQ people will continue to die needlessly. This is what we shouldn't accept.
Reviews Elsewhere - The Strange & Curious Guide to Trauma by Sally Donovan — www.childabusesurvivor.net I came across this review when someone shared it on social media, and it got picked up and passed around a bit. The review is from the Foster Talk page, which is aimed at Foster families and intersects the topics here when we talk about childhood trauma. Ruth Willets shared this about the book, which might be of interest to many of you who have teens and kids who have experienced trauma, or maybe even some young adults who could use some help understanding what trauma does to us.
Sharing - Kids Who Witness Domestic Violence May Suffer Mentally for Decades — www.childabusesurvivor.net Despite childhood trauma's disadvantages, kids can recover after childhood trauma and live perfectly healthy, successful lives. They need help. They need a support system and people there to help them navigate it, but childhood trauma is not, as we often hear a life sentence. I wish we would talk about this more. Survivors could use the reminder.
Sharing - Raising Critical Thinkers: A Parent's Guide to Growing Wise Kids in the Digital Age — www.childabusesurvivor.net We would do well with more of this question and a deeper analysis of "says who" and less outrage. They won't make it easy for us to do that, so we will have to do it for ourselves, and we're going to have to teach the next generation. Otherwise we will continue to see social media eat away at our mental health instead of being a tool that could help it by providing us with a community of people with shared interests.
Shared From Elsewhere
These Podcasts Help Normalize Severe Anxiety, Depression and Other Mental Health Issues — www.goodhousekeeping.com This collection of podcasts addresses mental health issues, for anyone looking for self-help advice on different conditions and improving emotional wellness.
Photography has the power to improve our mental wellbeing - SANE — www.sane.org.uk When he was diagnosed with PTSD, Paul was catapulted into some very dark places but turned to photography in a bid to regain some normality.
Depression As You Age; It’s Not Normal! – Tower to Town — towertotown.wordpress.com Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com Depression is a serious mood disorder and can affect the way you go about your daily life. It impacts the way you act, the way you feel , and the way you think. People who are depressed often have feelings of sadness or anxiety for long periods of time. With…
Fighting Internalized Stigma and Changing My Attitude | NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness Throwing around careless language, I quickly realized, did not make me feel better.
Linked: How Loneliness Is Damaging Our Health — www.mikemcbrideonline.com They also point out that whether being lonely causes that change or whether that DNA change makes someone more likely to feel lonely is unclear. What is clear, though, is that helping someone feel less lonely is a worthwhile goal. Helping someone feel like they are part of a community and have something to offer that community helps them. It's one of the keys to suicide prevention too. If work gets in the way of this happening, if abusive relationships or stigma get in the way, it can have fatal consequences. As we consider what the future of our workplaces should be, we'd do well to remember that our people have lives outside of work and are better off when they can enjoy the people in their lives outside of work.
Survival Is Not a Small Thing – TWLOHA — twloha.com Surviving and greeting another day is no small feat.
From the Archives
Sharing - Being Kind to Yourself — www.childabusesurvivor.net I know this is a struggle for me. I notice every mistake I make. I dwell on them much longer than is healthy. When I do something well, even to the point of getting complimented? I forget it relatively quickly. That's not a good balance. I know I'm not alone in that. So what do I do?
We Teach Children all the Wrong Things — www.childabusesurvivor.net I came across this video of Emma Jean Taylor's TedTalk about child abuse the other day and wanted to share it with you. First because, as the title of the video says, we teach kids to be wary of strangers all the time but we don't teach them to also be wary of people they know, despite the fact that up to 90% of sexual abuse victims know the abuser. I fell into that category. I remember learning all about windowless vans and strangers with candy. No one ever told me that someone within my own family could also be a sexual abuser.
Sharing - Is ‘Good Touch’ and ‘Bad Touch’ an Unhelpful Shortcut to Teaching Kids about Consent? — www.childabusesurvivor.net I think this article by Srinidhi Raghavan raises some really interesting points, starting with these three reasons why it might not be as simple as good vs bad touch: “First, what is “good” touch? What is “bad”? How is a child supposed to determine this, and how do we teach them this without being broad...