Revue newsletter for Child Abuse Survivor - Issue #33
I don't know about you, but this has been a whirlwind of a week for me. Thus, this issue is getting out a little later on Friday than I would like. Looking forward to recharging a little bit this weekend, but also to getting a little better organized going in to next week. I find self-care for me when it comes to work is creating lists of tasks instead of having big whirlwinds of ideas and projects. It can be hard to know where to start, but my tasks can help me get started and getting started is half the battle when I feel overwhelmed by something. How will you recharge this weekend?
New From the Blogs
Sharing - We Didn't Say 'Gay' At My High School. It Almost Cost Me My Life. — www.childabusesurvivor.net Not acknowledging the humanity of anyone is what should not be acceptable. Trying to will an entire subset of humanity out of existence because they make you uncomfortable or some religious leader has told you that they are dangerous is not acceptable. People die from suicide when there is so much pain that they see no path forward. The solution to that is to connect with them, to show them a path forward that involves being in community with people who accept and support them. Anything less than that is a willful decision to let people die. If that's what your beliefs tell you to do, you need better beliefs.
Sharing - Mental Health: When People Tell You How They Feel, Believe Them. — www.childabusesurvivor.net It's not just saying I believe you when someone tells you they are struggling with depression or anxiety. It's all of the subtle ways we show them that we don't believe them. The "But you don't look", the "you'll be fine", the toxic positivity, the refusal to change your own behavior in supportive ways, etc., do just as much damage. They send the message that we don't believe what you just said is serious enough to warrant doing anything differently. Is that the message you want to send someone who trusted you enough to admit they are struggling with you? That their struggles aren't valid enough for you to do anything differently?
The Four "R's" for Hope and Healing — www.childabusesurvivor.net Saw someone share this yesterday and, after some time looking through it, decided it was definitely worth sharing. It's from Lauren's Kids page, and it has a ton of information about what they are calling the four "R's" Recognize Report Respond Recover
Shared from Elsewhere
New suicide hotline number is unknown to most Americans — www.axios.com Suicide is at its highest level and still rising.
How to Talk to a Man About His Mental Health | Psychology Today — www.psychologytoday.com First of all, not face-to-face.
Talking with children and youth about difficult things
We all know what we’re seeing in the news can be worrisome – even, at times, frightening. If we’re feeling worried or alarmed about what we’re seeing in the news as adults, imagine what kids and youth may be thinking.
Campus Mental Health Services Have to Be More Inclusive of LGBTQ+ Students | Teen Vogue — www.teenvogue.com Colleges are rethinking the one-size-fits-all approach to campus mental health to better serve LGBTQ+ students and other students with marginalized identities.
From the Archives
Talking About Male Sexual Abuse Survivors on the It's a Wrap Podcast — www.childabusesurvivor.net I sat down this week to do an interview with Ron Rapaport, host of the It's a Wrap podcast. You can take a listen to it here, and also check out some of
Takeaways from Aly Raisman Event at LSU — www.childabusesurvivor.net Last night I had the opportunity to attend an event on the campus of LSU and hear Aly Raisman, Olympic gold medalist, and sexual abuse survivor, share her
Link - The #1 Reason Children Recant Abuse Allegations — www.childabusesurvivor.net “In approximately 23% of child abuse cases, children recant (take-back) allegations of abuse. Research has been conducted to better understand why children do this: the #1 reason children recant abuse allegations is their primary, non-offending caregiver (which in the vast majority of cases is the mother) DOES NOT believe them.” Makes sense to me, as a child...