Revue newsletter for Child Abuse Survivor - Issue #12
New Stuff From the Blogs
Sharing - Ten Ways Boundaries Can Change Your Life for the Better — www.childabusesurvivor.net Healthy relationships have boundaries that are respected by everyone. Even if we didn't see that growing up we can still learn to develop boundaries.
Another Reminder - To Reduce Suicide Risk for LGBTQ folks Just Accept Who They Are — www.childabusesurvivor.net So again, we see that simply accepting people for who they are has a pretty large impact on the risk of losing them to suicide. Why would we do anything else, for anyone?
Sharing - Human Connection: Why It's Important — www.childabusesurvivor.net Here's the thing that I tend to forget, you don't need to wait for an emergency to make someone feel seen, heard, and valued. In fact, we can maybe avoid more emergencies if we were in the habit of doing this. We have an opportunity to do that any time we spend time with the people we care about. But, we have to actually spend the time to do that. I have a tendency to simply tell people that I'm here when they need me, instead of reaching out with a quick message, text, or even coffee just because. I can't help but wonder how many chances I've had to see and hear them, that I've missed. The holidays are, of course, a really good chance to send that text, get in touch, and remind people that you value them. You can read the article below to see just how much good that might do.
Shared from Elsewhere
It’s Hard To Be A Really Good Listener | by Mary Liga | Mind Cafe | Medium — medium.com It’s not always easy to stay quiet and let it spill over you either. But if you can, it’s usually better than the alternative of jumping in and getting caught up in the madness.
The Ultimate Guide to Mental Health Care for Men — www.healthline.com Anyone can experience a mental health condition, but symptoms can look different in men. That means men often go undiagnosed. Here's how to get support.
For So Long I Believed I Didn't Deserve Love – TWLOHA — twloha.com Our mental health experiences do not define us. They do not take away from who we are or the value we hold.
A public mental health model in Italy earns global praise. Now it faces its demise : NPR Trieste has a reputed approach to bringing people with mental illnesses out of hospitals and into the community. Now the region's hard-right politicians are breaking the system apart.
From the Archives
Sharing - Why Healing from Trauma Can Get Harder As We Age — www.childabusesurvivor.net As I've said before, we were too busy simply surviving the abuse to learn the things we were supposed to learn as children, so we often start out behind in various ways. Of course, in order to learn those things we need to do the work as an adult, to first unlearn the things we learned, and then learn the things we didn't learn to start with. This is, perhaps, one of the real tragedies of so many survivors not even telling anyone, let alone starting this work, for decades. That's so many more years of doing the things we need to unlearn, and undoing that is just going to be more difficult the longer this has been true for us. So, what can we do?
What If I Told You Most Abuse Survivors Are Not Who We Think They Are? — www.childabusesurvivor.net What if a study found that 65% of sexual abuse survivors are "mentally healthy" as adults? Would you believe that? Granted, it might be difficult to
More Proof That Early Interventions Are Key — www.childabusesurvivor.net So, when I see a study like this, I don't feel defeated, I don't feel like we are all just broken and doomed to poorer outcomes. I see the possibility that there is room to change this current reality, but it's going to take changing how we deal with childhood adversity and doing it in an open, honest, and immediate way. High levels of childhood adversity don't have to be an early death sentence. We can, and should, intervene early in order to prevent many of these outcomes. We just need the determination and will to make it happen. Do we have that?
Sharing - Sexual-Abuse Survivors Are Getting Sucked Into QAnon — www.childabusesurvivor.net Frankly, I am concerned too: “Experts on child sexual abuse are extremely concerned about the rise of conspiracy theories, particularly in what are intended as safe places for survivors. “It’s very discomforting” to know that sexual abuse survivors are being drawn into conspiracy theories like QAnon, says Jetta Bernier, executive director for Mass Kids, a...