Child Abuse and Mental Health Survivors Information - Issue #114
It's getting to be "set boundaries with your family" time of year.
As such, I’m going to share this link with you from last year - 35 Scripts for Trauma Survivors to Set Family Boundaries
My favorites:
I’m not obligated to explain myself to you.
That has not been [isn’t] my experience.
No. (without an explanation)
What are your go-to comments that allow you to set boundaries with your family?
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New from the Blogs
Feeling Lonely Should Inspire Us to Connect, But Often It Does the Opposite
For myself, and all of you, remember that feeling of loneliness is there for a reason, because we are meant to be connected to other people. Generally speaking, all those people we know and should connect with, also need the same thing. Many of them might even be struggling with their own internal negative thoughts too, and could use someone to reach out to them. If we all sit around convinced that no one wants to connect with us, eventually we'll all be lonely, which seems like something we are headed toward. The solution is for each of us to take a step toward connection when we can.
Sharing - Why Do Parents Not Believe Their Child when they Disclose Abuse?
It is a downer, it's horrible, and no one wants to think about it, but imagine how much worse it is when it not only happens to you, but no one will believe you or keep you safe.
In other words, I'm more than simply a worker. I'm more than a cog in the capitalist system that pays me for my labor. We all are, but we don't always act like it, and I suspect that Helen is correct in her assumption that part of the reason is that we have prioritized work so far above and beyond the rest of our lives that we don't have anything else to do.
That's not a recipe for a healthy and balanced life.
Shared from Elsewhere
This is a complicated issue, and one we could be doing a much better job with - Mental Health and Law Enforcement. Also see Mental crisis calls to police can be deadly. Cities try new ways to respond.
Navigating the Depths: A Personal Journey into Black Men’s Mental Health and the Power of Therapy
Veteran’s Day was last weekend, but this is still important - Bringing Hope and Suicide Prevention Resources to Veterans and Military Members
If you’ve wondered about what social anxiety is - How Social Anxiety Affects the Brain
Revisiting a common theme about kindness and joy around here - Being Kind Impacts the World AND Your Well-being and How daily moments of joy can help long-term well-being
From the Archives
Yes, You Do Know Victims of Sexual Abuse
To say that this doesn’t impact you or anyone you know, is silly. The fact is, if you don’t know anyone who is a survivor, it’s most likely due to the fact that the survivors around you have decided not to reveal it, either to you, or at all.
I Had Victim Written All Over Me
This is how childhood abuse plays out in adulthood for many people, male and female. The abuse becomes an ingrained part of how we see ourselves, believing that it was deserved. As adults, why would we believe we deserve anything else?
Quick Thought Number 5 – Most People Have Been Traumatized
If we look at the various statistics covering child abuse, domestic violence, victims of crime, military service members, sexual assault, etc. we have to come to the conclusion that the vast majority of people have experienced trauma, and would benefit from being treated with appropriate kindness.
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