Child Abuse and Mental Health Survivors Information - Issue #67
It's Freaking Magical!
Many years ago, my wife and I spent some time at Disney World. We were adults with no kids, so we could just enjoy the park however we wanted, and at our own pace. We also watched many a family struggle with kids who didn’t want to do the same things, who were tired and grumpy, or clearly had no interest in waiting in lines and came up with our own little sarcastic comment - “Happiest place on Earth!”
I was reminded of this in the last couple of weeks as we made a couple of trips to check out holiday lights. Again, as adults we could enjoy the lights at our own pace, no worries. We also got to see the kids out past their normal bedtime, or being drug to a lovely hotel holiday display to get the perfect family photo, who clearly had no interest in being there. Same thing, except now the phrase became “It’s freaking magical”
My point is not to make fun of anyone by writing this though. The point I want you to walk away with as we approach the holidays is to embrace the less-than-perfect. The pressure to have the perfect holiday with the perfect family in the perfect setting is ridiculous. No one has that.
Instead of worrying about the perfect holiday find the magic in your own life no matter how imperfect it might be. Even if the holidays are difficult, enjoy a day to yourself instead of work, or enjoy the fact that you can get some great discounts on holiday chocolate starting the 26th.
And if you are spending the time with someone, embrace the stuff that doesn’t work out. When my wife and I were exploring these places we had difficulties with traffic, rain, a less-than-great dinner out but it was all part of the adventure.
And the adventure was pretty freaking magical as it turned out.
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